Being ever the amateur anthropologist, I undertook a careful study of social networking practices of Starians on Friendster and I make this observation: the mating habits of Starians have certainly changed a lot from my days.
In particular, I zoomed into some profiles of the boys still in school. I must say I was impressed. It appears pretty normal for each of them to have 50 to 100 “friends”. One chap even had 366. And I can’t even find anybody to go to lunch with.
I can’t help comparing the ease at which this current e-generation make friends to the cumbersome socializing efforts of old school Starians. With a Friendster account, surreptitious handphone, fair determinaton and basic understanding of statistics I can’t see how any of our budding Don Juans could fail to score with chicks. As I understand it one only needs to click the “add as friend” button and voila! one could already give Giacomo Casanova a run for his money. As evidenced by the list of friends one thriving member of Fivers 2008 has:
When I was in STAR, I swear I could only count my female correpondents on one hand. Yes, one hand. And even if I had 2 fingers amputated, I could have still managed it quite well.
It was so different back then. For our boys during the 80s, the norm would be to get pen-friends from other SBPs, notably from STF, SSP and TKC through more protracted means. At this point I don’t want to go into details about the various schemes we hatched to get to know girls from other schools. But invariably, this would involve using the “bertukar-tukar kertas soalan” ruse. With only low-tech communication means at our disposal, namely snail-mail and public telephones, our reach did not go far and wide.
I remember that it would always be a source of excitement for the whole dorm or classroom when one of our numbers received a letter post-marked KL, Seremban or Johor Bahru. It would cause more excitement if the envelope was in a pastel shade and had a slight scent emanating. There would be a sense of trepidation those moments before the envelope was opened because who knows what it would contain? I would say that everybody in the dorm would have a vested interest in the contents because a group photo of the pen-friend and her friends would open further opportunities for other long-distance correspondences.
I say that it’s too easy now. I’m not sure how meaningful the cyber-friendships are. I suspect if you have 366 friends you don’t get very distraught if one of your hot cyber-girlfriends does not reply your email for 2 weeks (or vice versa).
So as a fairly experienced member of the old guard, I would like to offer our schoolboy romeos an alternative low-tech system to make you stand out from the crowd. Just follow the instructions below and I guarantee you will stand out from the other soulless profiles.
Step 1:I’m assuming that you would have enough sense to know what to do next in trying to woo your target. Well, taking this to its logical conclusion, at some point you would actually need to exchange exam papers (and compilation
Take note of your “angka giliran” for SPM (or PMR of you want to start early). You need only be concerned with the last 3 digits, because there are only about 120 students in a batch. Let’s say yours is 013 (which happened to be mine), then you would want to also find a friend from one the girls’ boarding schools with the same number. Come to think of it, there’s no reason why you can’t try this with a number of different candidates to maximise your returns. Come to think of it further, there’s no reason why you can’t use this tactic even if you have taken your SPM already (in 1975).
If you are not risk averse, you might also want to try these tactics with a Sekolah Menengah Sains student – be warned: your penfriend might or might not turn out to be a girl, but to each his own.
Pick up a piece of paper and write a letter to the intended recipient along these lines:
Seperti saudari, saya adalah calon SPM No. 013 tahun 2008. Sukacita jika saudari ingin bertukar-tukar kertas soalan peperiksaan dengan saya.
You need to sign off with your name, not your number. Of course, don’t forget your return address (preferably snail mail for that retro old school effect).
Stuff the letter in an envelope and write down as follows (by way of an example):
Calon SPM No. 013 (Tingkatan 5)
Sekolah Tun Fatimah
Jalan Tun Abdul Razak,
80000 Johor Bahru, Johor Darul Ta'zim
Stick a 30 sen stamp on the envelope. If are born after 1990 and you don’t know what this is, it’s a small sticky piece of paper that you paste on an envelope indicating that you have paid Pos Malaysia for delivering your letter to the recipient on the envelope. You can get this from any post office.
Shove the letter into a red post box and see what happens. Assuming the mail distribution systems of these schools work like they did during my time, the kind prefect on duty will ask around during prep and deliver your letter to the lucky recipient.
Phew! That sounds like very hard work actually (no wonder my rate of success then was zero). All right then, if this is too much effort and Friendster’s not giving you any joy there’s always Facebook. (I really have to sell off my Pos Malaysia Bhd shares soon).